Theresa Garcia’s Commentary —
“Trauma is an ineradicable aspect of life. We are human as a result of it, not in spite of it.” Epstein
The Trauma of Being Alive
Published on August 3, 2013 by Mark Epstein in The New York Times
TALKING with my 88-year-old mother, four and a half years after my father died from a brain tumor, I was surprised to hear her questioning herself. “You’d think I would be over it by now,” she said, speaking of the pain of losing my father, her husband of almost 60 years. “It’s been more than four years, and I’m still upset.”
I’m not sure if I became a psychiatrist because my mother liked to talk to me in this way when I was young or if she talks to me this way now because I became a psychiatrist, but I was pleased to have this conversation with her. Grief needs to be talked about. When it is held too privately it tends to eat away at its own support.